Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Raising Warriors That Protect Their Hearts

Raising two warriors is a bit overwhelming at times. My brain gets tired answering questions like how do rockets work, what years did King Louis XVI live, why don't worms have legs and so on. In response to the elevated sense of wonder as they progress in age, I have had to beef up my tool bag. In addition to the crayons that are always in my purse, (along with some organic suckers when I get really desperate) I keep a dictionary in my car, yes one that is paper and bound, so I can throw it in the back seat when Little Buckaroo asks me the 50th question of the day and what it means and a Bible to seek answers in God's word. I am all about teaching them to find the answers.

But, with their hearts, I am holding on tight, not allowing to go with the flow. The condition of our sons hearts determines the course of their life and that is HUGE, I will not waver.

Every Saturday at the soccer field, the kids on the team I coach tell me about their girlfriends/boyfriends and who is "going out with" whom (which yes, is amazing since they are 8-years-old and can't drive, so I am not sure where they are going, ha).

Last soccer season, Little Buckaroo observed this and I watched peer pressure happen right before my eyes. On our way home after a game, Little Buckaroo said he likes kicking the soccer ball with Jordyn, so should she be his girlfriend. All I could think at the moment was, HERE WE GO......

I did not get married until I was 29, so I was in the dating world for a while and know how it all works, yes, all to well. I want better for our guys, I want them to save their hearts for the one God has purposed for them, but how can they do that if they give up pieces of their heart along the way?

So, here is how I explained it to Little Buckaroo. I grabbed a piece of bread and told him that is his heart. I began to pull pieces off a little at a time telling him that was him giving his heart away to a girl. When I was done, there was only a small circle of bread left. I told him that if he gave his heart away piece by piece that when he is older and found the girl God had planned for him, he would only be able to give her a piece of his heart and she deserved better than that. Does it sound like a hard thing to do this day and age, you bet. On the flip side, do I want him to end up with a girl that at 6-years-old began repeatedly giving her heart and then every other part of herself to guys.

We hope to raise warriors that seek the face and heart of God, as they learn to wield a sword and conquer the ugly in this grand adventure called life. And, yes, I hope they will one day save the damsel in distress and treat her as the princess God created her to be.

Oh, by the way, I do find peace and humor in knowing that Big Buckaroo is charged with giving them the sex talk. I hope he is planning his tool bag for that one right now!
The Park Wife


Anonymous said...

As a single 32 year old, I wish more of my peers had been raised like this. Seems like what most guys my age have left to give, I don't want.

Sheila said...

Love using bread as a tool. Oh it is so hard isn't it. I have 2 teenagers now. When our kids are 10 we take them on a road trip. Ken with the boys and I with the girls. We use James Dobson Preparing for Adolesence CD series. It's awesome.

Bethany Stephens said...

Sweet friend - I love it! Well written. (I even pictured the bread when we were talking!!)

Thanks for all you do to inspire me as a parent. Can't wait to get these kiddos together!

Rebecca said...

Keep protecting those hearts. :) Your analogy was wonderful! I used a glue bottle with the same concept on my daughter (thanks to a friend). However, my son is very visual, so thanks for the bread idea!

Julie said...

When my husband asked a friend if she minded if her son climbing a tree in the yard, she replied,

"Physical danger I welcome. It's when you start talking emotional danger that I get fired up."

I like that philosophy.

Re: talking to your sons about sex and purity - My husband is putting the final touches (on an update) to a great product by FamilyLife called Passport to Purity. Wait for the newest version to emerge in the spring. They've contracted the guy from Seeds Family Worship to do the music for it...good stuff.

check it out: