Yes, I quit Facebook. Now, get up off the floor from shock and let me tell you why. Their names are Big Buckaroo, Little Buckaroo and Littlest Buckaroo. It was not that I sat at the computer all day watching people's status go from "single" to "in a relationship" and back the next day, nor was I obsessed that someone was not going to be able to feed their pig on Farmville because I have live animals outside my back door that need actual food that I have to get in my vehicle, drive to town, use real money to buy at the co-op, then feed. In reality, it sucked time from my life in spurts that really added up.
I would be going to put a load of clothes in the dryer, stop to see new status updates and stroll through new pictures for 10 minutes. Then, as I was going to get a book to read to the boys, I stopped to see if there where any new friend requests. Another 5 minutes sucked away, 10 when I could not figure out who they were then feel guilty for not accepting. This happened all day long. Speaking of friends, I had over 400 Facebook friends and can guarantee that if I was sick or in a bind, there are just a handful of them that would show up at my back door with soup or to offer to help with my kids. I know, I know, it is a social networking tool, not real life. hmmmmm......really? Is it for you?
I do love that I reconnected with people from my childhood (love you Cathy Strahan, Aunt Libby, Marijoy, Nicky C., Suzanne J. and some others) and kept up-to-date on my brothers, I do have 5 of them, but I will now keep in touch with more primitive means like email and the phone, hey I might even write a letter and send it by snail mail. The FB mind cloud has cleared, I know that collecting friends, virtual gifts and wall posts does not validate me as a person or attribute to my success as a living, breathing human.
I have worked hard to take away all the noise in my life that could possibly detract from a life well-lived and focus on things that actually contribute to my growth spiritually, intellectually, my family's happiness. And then I registered on Facebook. No more, I say!
I will continue my blog because it is a fun space for me to write, post pictures, make meaningful and beneficial connections with like-minded people, keep family updated, and blab about my life on a state park. I love that people are reading and I welcome all comments (and I do love them) but my motivation now is to worry less about Google Analytics and more about developing my voice as a writer. And, making sure Grandma has the latest pictures of her little guys.
Now, I know this choice is not for everyone, it is what is right for me. And, I do not think Facebook is evil, just does not add to my life in a meaningful way. Since logging off, I have not felt stress over getting homeschooling done, house cleaning, cooking, playing with kids, preparing for a huge blog meetup that is tomorrow, working on making our town a better place to live and on and on. I feel lighter and happier, less ragged.
Status: Mom guilt subsided, kids and hubby happy, spending more time in His word, going to meet 54 women bloggers from my state tomorrow, life is great. (Did I go over my 140 character limit?)
The Park Wife